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by Monti Wheeler

The Mother I Was Given vs. The Mother I Needed

May 10, 2026
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Some women wake up on Mother’s Day excited to celebrate. Others wake up and brace themselves. If you’re the second kind — this Sunday conversation is for you.

In Episode 6 of The Purfect Sunday Podcast, Monti opens up about the truth of her own mother, who passed away 11 years ago, before their hard relationship was ever healed. As the eldest of six, Monti was needed to help raise the others before she was ever old enough to be a daughter herself. If any part of that resonates — eldest daughter syndrome, parentification, the mother wound, or just the slow realization that the mother you got isn’t the mother you needed — pull up a chair.

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