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by Monti Wheeler

The Mother I Was Given vs. The Mother I Needed

May 10, 2026
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Some women wake up on Mother’s Day excited to celebrate. Others wake up and brace themselves. If you’re the second kind — this Sunday conversation is for you.

In Episode 6 of The Purfect Sunday Podcast, Monti opens up about the truth of her own mother, who passed away 11 years ago, before their hard relationship was ever healed. As the eldest of six, Monti was needed to help raise the others before she was ever old enough to be a daughter herself. If any part of that resonates — eldest daughter syndrome, parentification, the mother wound, or just the slow realization that the mother you got isn’t the mother you needed — pull up a chair.

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Thank you for spending your Sunday with me. I hope you have a Purfect Sunday. 💛

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I'm a lifestyle blogger, adventure seeker & full-time Mommy. I have a passion for all things beauty-related, fitness, fashion, travel, and healthy living. Purfect Sunday is where I share everything I learn along the way.

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  • What’s something you like to remind yourself of from time to time?
  • 7 things I’m romanticizing this week. Because it’s the little things that make life beautiful 🤍
  • ✨ Note to Self ✨  Our thoughts create our reality. So let's work on thinking more kind, beautiful, and positive thoughts, so we can manifest a more beautiful, positive life. 
#PurfectSunday  #motivationalmonday #iphonenotes #notetoself
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Clean space, clean mind, clean intentions.
This is your sign to light a candle, toss a load of laundry in, plan your meals, and romanticize the hell out of your life.
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* ¼ cup fresh lemon juice
* 1 small garlic clove, grated
* 1 teaspoon Dijon mustard
* ¼ teaspoon sea salt, more to taste
* Freshly ground black pepper
* ½ teaspoon honey, or maple syrup, optional
* ¼ to ⅓ cup extra-virgin olive oil
* ½ teaspoon fresh or dried thyme, optional
  • Here are 4 major benefits of ice rolling:

1. Reduces Puffiness and Inflammation
The cold temperature constricts blood vessels, which helps decrease swelling — especially around the eyes, jawline, and cheeks.

Great for morning de-puffing or calming post-facial redness.

2. Boosts Circulation for a Natural Glow
Ice rolling stimulates blood flow to the skin’s surface, leading to a brighter, more radiant complexion.

Think of it as a natural glow boost without makeup.

3. Tightens Skin and Minimizes Pores
Cold therapy can temporarily tighten skin, making pores appear smaller and improving overall skin texture.

Perfect for prepping your face before makeup for a smooth, flawless finish.

4. Relieves Facial Tension and Soothes Headaches
Ice rolling across the forehead, jaw, and temples can ease muscle tension and even help relieve headache pressure.

Doubles as a quick, calming self-care ritual during stressful days. 🤍
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Clean space, clean mind, clean intentions.
This is your sign to light a candle, toss a load of laundry in, plan your meals, and romanticize the hell out of your life.
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Clean space, clean mind, clean intentions.
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Reset the vibe. Reclaim your peace. Repeat.

Clean space, clean mind, clean intentions.
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Reset the vibe. Reclaim your peace. Repeat.

Clean space, clean mind, clean intentions.
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Reset the vibe. Reclaim your peace. Repeat.

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Clean space, clean mind, clean intentions.
This is your sign to light a candle, toss a load of laundry in, plan your meals, and romanticize the hell out of your life.
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Clean space, clean mind, clean intentions.
This is your sign to light a candle, toss a load of laundry in, plan your meals, and romanticize the hell out of your life.
Reset the vibe. Reclaim your peace. Repeat.

Clean space, clean mind, clean intentions.
This is your sign to light a candle, toss a load of laundry in, plan your meals, and romanticize the hell out of your life.
Reset the vibe. Reclaim your peace. Repeat.

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